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Let’s talk about…. Dog/dog greetings

First, there’s no rule that says your dog has to meet every dog
they come across. But, they should learn to maintain their composure in proximity to other dogs.

If on leash and you choose to let your dog greet another dog the leashes MUST remain loose. If you have
tension on the leash you could accidentally create a body language posture your dog did not intend–
head up, body tense and leaning forward, etc.–and the other dog could misunderstand. How many times
have you seen 2 dogs meet on leash and everything seems ok, then an owner pulls on the leash to leave
and the dogs suddenly snark at each other? Count to 2 or 3 and then coax your dog to walk away with
you. If you wait too much longer one of the dogs may make the decision, “Yep, I could totally take you”.
DO NOT pull the leash while standing still–same reason as above. Do a little “Ok Skippy let’s go” as you
hold the leash low and walk away.

Try to avoid nose to nose greetings. Walk your dog in a curve up to the other dog, or walk to the side to
form a T, or walk your dog around to let their rear get to the other dog’s head (also known as ‘free
butt sniff’).

If there is anything about the other dog’s body language that just doesn’t feel right avoid the
greeting all together. It’s better to have your dog skip the greeting than have a negative experience.

Let’s talk about… Body language: head turns

Head turns can indicate a couple of things depending on the situation. We’ll talk about head turns as
it relates
to someone wanting to greet your dog. Here’s the scenario:

You’re out somewhere, hanging out. Someone approaches you and asks to pet your dog. You say “sure”
and as they get closer, or reach out their hand, your dog turns their head away from the human as if
there is something really interesting over their shoulder (some dogs will turn their whole body away). Your
dog is yelling “Please don’t! I’m uncomfortable”. Tell the person you’re sorry but they cannot pet him/her
right now. Come up with an excuse if you’re uncomfortable just saying no. Something like:
“I’m sorry but he/she just had surgery recently and isn’t feeling up to meeting people after all, but thank
you for asking”, but do not let them come closer. If the human doesn’t walk away you should.  Your dog
will thank you for it

Your dog will tell you everything you need to know if you learn their language.

Let’s talk about… Leashes

Leashes are a safety device only. They keep your dog from running into the street or darting over to a
dog or human. The most important thing about a leash is NOT to use it to control your dog–pulling them
to you or away from something, repositioning them, or yanking them so they pay attention to you
while you’re standing still can teach your dog that the leash is what needs to be listened to and not you.  They know it’s all about the leash because they’re moving and you’re standing still.  You could also
teach your dog to resent a leash.

When holding a leash, whether standing, sitting or walking, keep it in one spot so that your dog cannot
move you, or your arm, even an inch. Hold the leash in one spot (use the ‘belly button hold’ position) and
if you want your dog to move then you move. Show your dog that pulling gets them absolutely nothing
and they need to stay close to you so they know where they’re going. Make it all about you and not
the leash. Use sound (kissy noises, tongue clicking, etc.) to get your dog’s attention instead of pulling
them to you.

The easiest way to NOT over use a leash is to go to Goin to the Dogs on Wellman in Five points and get a
waist leash! Hands free walking is amazing! You’ll never go back to a regular leash. If you tell them you
heard about a waist leash here they’ll know which one you need.

Remember, it needs to be about you and not the leash.

Let’s talk about… Adopting a dog

When you adopt a dog the first thing you should do when you get home is take them for a long walk. A
lonnng walk.  There can be tremendous stress on the dog and walking helps them get rid of some of this
anxiety, and it familiarizes them with their new ‘neighborhood. If they will be joining an existing pack have
the other dog(s) meet you in the street and take them all for that initial walk, then walk them into the
backyard and drop the leashes.

Relegate them to one room/area of your house for a few days before you give them access to more of the
house. This way they aren’t overwhelmed, and you can keep an eye on them.  When you bring them into
the house essentially ignore them. Putting social pressure on them to be petted, come to you over and
over, or constant eye contact and sound can add to the stress. Let them come to you when they want
to, give them a little calm petting and let them settle down.

The first 2 weeks or so is the time to establish rules and boundaries–sit/wait to eat, wait to go outside,
etc. They use this time to figure out where they fit in the hierarchy and what are their rights, privileges
and responsibilities. They tend to be on their best behavior initially because they are the new pack
member so it’s the perfect time to set up that structure.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve met with someone to work on behavior issues where the conversation
starts with, “He was so good the first few weeks and then he started to….”. Many times this is
because the rules weren’t established and with the lack of structure the dog went down a bad path.

Most importantly, thank you for adopting a dog. You saved a life and that’s good for everyone.

Let’s talk about… Bite inhibition in puppies

Question:  How many of you have bought a puppy from a breeder, or adopted a puppy from a rescue and
been given that puppy at 6 weeks of age and had nipping/biting problems that leave you bruised
and bleeding? If not addressed this behavior can get completely out of control.

If you get a puppy from a breeder tell them you’ll pick the puppy up at 8 weeks.  Please, please, please
only take a puppy that has been with their litter for at least 8 weeks.  If they say ‘no’ then keep looking. 
You will save yourself frustration and pain.  Trainers wish breeders were required by law to keep
puppies that long.  Until recently it was uncommon for breeders to give up puppies under 8 weeks. 
Now some breeders are giving puppies away as early as 5 weeks. Those 2 or 3 weeks are when a
puppy learns bite inhibition from their litter mates and mother.  

So, now you have this cute little 6 week old puppy who becomes a piranha.  What do you do?  Here are a
couple of techniques that can be very effective.

Remove yourself:  One thing to try first is to simulate what their litter mates would do.  If you watch
a bunch of young puppies play you’ll see examples of “You bit me too hard!  I refuse to play you!”. 
The puppy will give a short, sharp sound and walk away.  Therefore teaching the biter that nipping
equals no more play.  If you’re interacting with the puppy and teeth touch skin give a short sharp
sound and leave the area for 20 or 30 seconds.  Come back and re-start the activity.  Repeat this over
and over so puppy puts ‘A’ (teeth on skin) and ‘B’ (everything stops) together.  

Don’t use your hands as toys:  Rough-housing with a puppy by batting at their face tells them your hands
are toys and they can nip at them when they are near his/her face, then you yell at them which makes
you a confusing human.

Redirecting:  Giving the puppy a chew toy when they start nipping at you can work.  Be careful of the
timing because puppy can learn, “I nip you and I get a toy! Whee!”  Redirecting works better when
the puppy is chewing on something they shouldn’t be chewing.

Isolation:  Another technique involves isolation.  Have a leash on the puppy at all times.  Teeth touch skin,
give the objection sound, calmly and quietly (no huffing and puffing, lecturing, etc.) pick up the leash and
walk the puppy to the isolation room (puppy-proofed, boring bathroom, laundry room but never their crate),
put them in by themselves, close the door, wait 20 or 30 seconds, bring the puppy out and do the exact
same activity again. Repeating the “time out” every time teeth touch skin.

Exercise:  Tired puppies are good puppies.  They’re less likely to get bored or amped up and want to
get you to interact with them using any means necessary.

Physical punishment: Muzzle grabs, jaw squeezing, etc. can be ineffective.  We’re not dogs so we don’t
know exactly where to grab, for exactly the right length of time with the exact amount of pressure. 
We tend to over do because we’re angry, or under do because we think we’re hurting the puppy.  Either
of those sends the wrong message and can cause your puppy to fear you or laugh at you.

Teaching a puppy that should have learned this from litter mates takes lots of patience and consistency. 
No teeth on skin means no teeth on skin. At all.  Under any circumstances.

Play with your puppies often, but with rules and boundaries.


Let’s talk about… Socialization

A lot of people think ‘Socialization’ is dogs playing together. This is just a very small piece of socializing
your puppy/dog. Socialization is the exposure to new sights, sounds, smells. Basically, it’s giving your dog
new experiences.

The prime period is a dog’s life for socializing is 8weeks-16weeks. Take your puppy someplace new every
day. You can go to a store parking lot and stand outside your car with your puppy to let them see,
smell everything going on. You don’t have to be in the thick of it–park way back from the store entrance.

Vets may say “Don’t take your puppy anywhere until they’ve had all the rounds of shots” but they don’t
mean keep your dog in the house. Avoid dog parks and other places where there may be unvaccinated dogs, but DO take them out and about for the exposure to new things. Friends, family, neighbors
with vaccinated dogs are a great resource for the dog-dog socializing.

The ASPCA has a great socialization ‘calendar’ for puppies at

Give your puppy a leg (or paw) up by socializing them and you may avoid difficult behavior issues later.


Let’s talk about… Treats

Treats are the most common training motivator. Soft, easily chewed treats are best so your dog
doesn’t have to stop and chew up a crunchy one.

Size – treats need to be about the size of a pea (my Pyr gets even smaller ones). Dogs don’t speak
English but they know a jackpot when they get one! If you use tiny bits of soft treats you can deliver 3
or 4 treats for a rockstar down many times and not have to worry about turning your dog into a
sausage girl or boy.

Amount – If you use tiny bits of treat you may only use the equivalent of 1 or 2 treats for entire
training session. Be sure to deduct from their meal the amount of treats they’ve been given (see
sausage dog mentioned above).

IMPORTANT: Treats are for teaching. Once your dog has been able to perform the command successfully
5 or 6 times start fading them out by giving a treat occasionally, or treat when they’ve performed
it faster/better/more accurately. Don’t stop treats cold turkey. Avoid giving a treat if you had to wait
for compliance–you don’t want to accidentally reward reluctance–but praise them when they
finally comply.

Availability – Have little bits of treats in different rooms so if your dog does something you absolutely
love you can quickly reward it. When in public I always have a few treats in my pocket in case I have to
be sure to have my dog’s attention, or want to jackpot an exceptional performance.

Treat boredom – Dogs can get tired of a particular treat just like we can get tired of a particular
food (except perhaps chocolate!) so feel free to have a variety.